More and more, this blog is turning into an obituary page. That is not a bad thing. We should pay more attention to the dead. As G. K. Chesterton put it in “Orthodoxy” (1908):
“Tradition means giving votes to the most obscure of all classes, our ancestors. It is the democracy of the dead. Tradition refuses to submit to the small and arrogant oligarchy of those who merely happen to be walking about.”
Yesterday my beloved uncle Rudi died.
Rudolf Graf und Herr von Schönburg-Glauchau
25. September 1932 – 17. Oktober 2026
He will always have voice in my head. He will always have my vote.
Onkel Rudi was born 1932 at our family’s ancestral castle in Wechselburg, Saxony. As a child he had to flee with his mother and his siblings from the advancing forces of the Red Army and ended up in the care of his aunt and the Fürstenberg family in south-western Germany. He made his apprenticeship at the famous École hôtelière in Lausanne and rose to become one of the most legendary figures in the golden era of the European hotel industry.
When he was 24, his friend and cousin Alfonso zu Hohenlohe, discovered him serving room service at the Vier Jahreszeiten in Hamburg, where Onkel Rudi was working at the time. "Come to Marbella with me", he said, "I am planning something there with the money of my mother's family..."
Hence, he and Alfonso turned Marbella into the first laid-back hideaway for Europe’s high society, long before “no shoes, no news” became a craze. Actors such as Grace Kelly and David Niven, the Bismarcks and a whole crowd of minor and deposed royals were longing for a place where they need not wear white tie and jewels in the evening and could simply relax among friends. And so the Marbella Club was born.
There is so much to say about Onkel Rudolf, as I called him; to everyone else he was “Conde Rudi”. He was not only my favourite uncle but someone I could always lean on in everything that mattered. He was probably the greatest gentleman of his time, and certainly the kindest man I have ever known. He appears here and there in my books as a model of what the elders called courtoisie.
Here is a passage from “How to Be Poor” (original title: “Die Kunst des stilvollen Verarmens”, 2005):
“He once gave a dinner at his house at which asparagus was served. Among the guests was a man from Australia who was unfamiliar with European customs and manners. Beside each plate stood a small bowl of water with a slice of lemon, meant for rinsing one’s fingers after the asparagus. Not knowing this, the guest raised the bowl and drank from it, and around the table heads were shaken in disbelief. My uncle did not hesitate: he lifted his own finger bowl to his lips, so that the man would never feel he had committed a faux pas.”
He is the last of my father’s brothers to be laid to rest.
The funeral will be held on 31 October at 5 pm at the Iglesia de Nuestra Señora de la Encarnación in Marbella.
I will always love him, and my love extends to his adored wife María Luisa, whom I am lucky to call my godmother, and to his children Sophie and Fritzi and their young families. My “Tante Louislein”, as I call my godmother, cared for Onkel Rudolf with such love, serenity and patience that I cannot express my admiration for her enough.
If you would like to honour his memory, please consider a donation to the charity of his choice, Fundación Cudeca (reference: “Conde Rudi”),
IBAN ES14 2100 7681 3222 0007 4742, BIC CAIXESBBXXX.
Here is a piece published in El Mundo four years ago, "Sweet Memories of Marbella" or something along those lines. And here is what the Marbella Club published in memory of their legendary patron – "A Lesson of Life", an interview with him – done a few years ago.
His son Fritzi honored his father with a short film for this 80th birthday.
Here it is.
Thankfully, Onkel Rudi left memoirs, in Spanish and in English.
They were compiled from interviews with José María Sánchez-Robles and published by Edinexus in Marbella in 2022. The English edition is titled “Count Rudi: A Fortunate Man”
(ISBN 978-84-948818-9-3).
Here are excerpts from the chapter describing how my uncle and my aunt María Luisa, then Princess of Prussia, first met in 1969, the year of my birth and at the place of my birth:
“My older brother Joachim was living at the time in Mogadishu, the capital of Somalia, where he had been posted by the German government. When I realised that Somalia was right next to where I was, in Kenya, I called him to say that on my way back I could fly to Rome via Mogadishu with Alitalia and visit him and his family, which had recently grown: my sister-in-law had just given birth to her fourth child, Alexander, now a well-known writer. She had told my brother that she would only move to Africa if she could count on someone to help her with the children, and she had thought of her cousin Maria Luisa of Prussia, who had trained as a nurse and was then working in a hospital for children with infectious diseases.
Maria Luisa received a letter from my brother with the plea to help her out and thought: ‘My God, what should I do? This is the adventure of my life.’ (...)
So she said goodbye to the hospital and flew to Mogadishu, intending to stay three months. She liked it so much (…) that she extended her stay by another two. (…)
Conde Rudi recalls:
"As fate would have it, she left Mogadishu on the very plane on which I arrived. We had a chance to talk, but only for a moment, because she looked very sad and tearful, saying goodbye to the many people who had come to show her their friendship before she returned to Europe. That young woman would, before long, become my wife.”
And this is how María Luisa remembers it:
“There were problems with money in Mogadishu, because you couldn’t take it out of the country, and I was stuffed with banknotes. Lots of people were seeing me off. Then Rudi arrived on the same plane I was taking to Nairobi, where I was going to stay for three days with a married couple, friends of mine. When he got off the plane, he was met by his brother and sister-in-law and no one else. So he asked them, ‘Why are all these people here?’, and they told him that everyone was saying goodbye to me.
(…) I was very upset at having to leave and had no interest in greeting him. When I boarded the plane, the man next to me, a Common Market economist working in Brussels, saw me crying and said: ‘How can you cry about leaving Mogadishu? It’s a terrible place.’
But it was very hard for me to leave that city. From Nairobi I went back to Germany to look for work, and I didn’t hear from him again. Then we were both invited to the wedding of his younger brother, Georg. At first I said, ‘I’m not going’, but then I found out that ‘my children’ from Somalia would be there, and I changed my mind. (…) He arrived with Prince Fürstenberg, and we were being pushed together from all sides; it seemed everybody wanted to see us as a couple.
(...) Then my cousin Antoinette’s twenty-first birthday was celebrated at my family’s château, and we were both invited again. There was a big party with dancing. Afterwards he asked me to drive with him to Zurich to catch his flight back to Spain.
I went with him, and when I got home there was a bouquet of I don’t know how many red roses. My mother said, ‘What have you done to poor Rudi?’ ‘I didn’t do anything,’ I replied.
And that’s how it all began.”









